Apr 14, 2009

No heartbreak here....

" sometimes the person you want the most you are better off without "



Break ups can be tough, but other times you just smile and laugh at the situation and say
" really I was with YOUR ass?!"

Life is definitely full of surprises. You think you know someone but you really don't. Or maybe deep inside of you, you know how the person is but you don't want to admit it.  "/

So yeah me and that guy broke up again. I think we are better off this way. Everyday I kept telling him how much I loved him and how *lucky I felt (ha ok) to have him in my life. He said the feeling was mutual but his actions said differently.... When you fall in love with someone you see past all their flaws; you want to believe shit will get better and the person will change their ways....

You can't make anyone change unless they realize they're wrong and they want to better themselves. I'm not saying I'm perfect but at least I knew what I wanted and I was serious about changing my ways to be happy with
him
 
He asked why I was so insecure, hmm the past says it all. And no you shouldn't hold grudges on people but when they keep doing it? C'mon on now.....

Many females out there make their guy their everything and that's not a good look. You must put yourself FIRST before anything. Don't make him your "world" if he isn't in the same page as you...and even if he says u are. Actions speak louder than words......remember that

- ladies,also  remember, we fall in love more than once. I look @ this way ....... You fall in love to gain experience for the next one. The guy your in love with right now may be teaching you things that no one else did. But that doesn't mean he's the "one". It may feel like it (trust me) but he may be making your a better person for the next one.... Its like you learn from your mistakes....

Also he might not be the "one" for you right now. If its meant to be he will come back and realize he fcked up. "You never know what u got 'till its gone". Now this is where a lot of us females fall in. We hope he will come back a changed man and say I'm sorry. Guess what? There's a 3% chance that will happen.... Maybe even less.
So don't wait around and stress yourself. Be productive, keep your mind off it and try to be the way you were before you met him. I know its hard,especially if u were with this *fool for a while.

- don't let anyone make a fool out of you, you think he's talking to someone else or doing shit behind your back? Chances are HE IS. Its womans intuition that know these things.... TRUST me. 

At the same time don't keep bringing shit up because that might push him to talk to another bitch but still that's no excuse for him... if he loves you like he says he does he'll put up with you.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay 

Now my FAV subject... the "next bitch" aka "side bitch" aka the one who wants to be his friend and make him feel good when you guys get into an argument. Telling him he's "too good" for you and all that bitch talk shit. Fuckouttahea, you trying to be wifey but uh ur not going to be. Shit might be all "sweet & dandy". Guess what? If he did it to me he can defff do it to you. Get a fckin clue dumb whore.  I swear some of these lame bitches need to be put in their place. If ur man doesn't want to let her go, he's picking you over her! If a man loves you he will be willing to let that snake go, cause come on now @ the end of the day YOU were there for him not HER. Coming out left field n shit smhhh.  He'll learn. But chances are it will be too late....

Right now I left someone who thought shit was "okay" , I was always reaching out to him and being nothing but Wifey to him but he fucked up. Now I'm not going to get way into it but those that are close to me know the fckin deal (dead lmao) 

Like Jae said " you are hot and you`ll find someone" pshh fck yea. I deserve someone who really appreciates me and sees things the way they're suppose to be and not make dumb ass excuses. Deep inside me I knew I needed someone better for me but I did not want to believe it.... I hope he finds God or something of the sort..... 

I feel a lot better that I let everything out, but trust me I won't shed a tear. . . .  not even worth it.
I will definitely take this advice and others and be a better person and hope for the best.

Don't ever settle for less ladies... there are PLENTY of other guys out there, you just have to find the right one... and its not the end of the world. Take it one day at a time and you'll be fine. I promise..

Just have to have a positive attitude. Which is what I have right now.

deleted out of my life and I will move on like you were nothing to me just like you treated me. I hope karma gets you, because I know it will, it always does baby ;]

I don`t know why I stuck around hoping shit would change, I gave you more than enough chances... If you can't see you fucked up I feel sorry for you.

Well this post is getting long and yeah I will close this chapter of my life and learn from this experience. Look back and ask "why did I put up with that..."


xoxoxo, Kay

P.S- Thank you Mister Chris Jervis for being an amazing friend and leading me in the right direction.... and everyone else who showed they cared...

14 comments:

PORCHE ` said...

Wow, this post really hit home. You just showed me the light to ALOT of things that I always questioned. I just went through a break up and for awhile I did dwell on it but it get's easier. I just know that if it was REAL and meant to be then maybe in the future it will work out but for the time being you have to stay positive and do things that benefit YOU.

vexedmentals said...

lmfao @ "i'm on the market again." ahhhh. *bigfuckingsigh* well as you & i both know, guys can be real fucking jerks. but it's up to us to decide on whether it's worth it. or if that shit is for the birds. we either have to put up with it; or bounce. no use in sitting around complaining. & i'm soo glad you chose to leave. i can only say so much because i'm slightly going through it with my guy. but of course, everything always falls into place. jae knows. you're a pretty girl. & well. . . he wasn't a pretty guy. inside OR out ;x but that just goes to show that you can & will def find better. *dusts off your shoulder.<3

stephyy said...

Your post speaks lol seriously its true everything you wrote and its good you realized it, it took me couple months after my breakup to see that but like Diane von Frustenburg said "the most important relationship you can have is with yourself because at the end of the day ; your the only person you have left".

vietxpinay. said...

i read everyyy word of this post! girl, you KNOW you're better than some grimey bullshit - moveeeeee on. you can do it, boo (= take care!!

gor(jess). said...

this post helped me in so many ways. ive been keeping strong for a while when it comes to my ex..and today i broke down , and now reading your blog is making shit so much easier for me , to put myself back together && keep it moving.

its so true , that quote in red just changed up my mood -- so im back on my fuck you , im actin brand new mood LMAO.

thanks mama :)

Rai said...

Ah, that sucks... but you're right.
I could careless to what someone says to me, actions will always speak louder. I tell my bf that all the time.

Everything will be okay. :]
We all deserve someone who's best for us, not who isn't deserving of us.

kmx | Araika Eanomi. said...

I learned a lot from this post girl guess it's better to get it young than for it to be too late, right? Anywho, I'm glad you're not sweatin it & still doin Kay!! Take care love, & Jae was right! You're a beautiful girl, there'll be others. =)

Dawn said...

Well said! Someone out there is better suited for u hun, trust. It's so hard to realize that a person really isn't for u when u have emotions/time/energy invested. God gives us signs that we sometime can't see...do u! stay productive and continue to evolve into a better person with each day...and u'll find the best person for...and always remember, love shouldn't be so hard :o) Time will make it better...

PJ said...

Hi im PJ and by the way I love your blog! But I can totally relate! I went through something similiar not too long ago. As long you keep a positive attitude and know that you are worth it then you will definitely be ok! Time does heal all wounds. Keep up the good work hun!

suz. said...

i think all the ladies can find some comfort in your post. i can say im going through the same, but i just haven't broke away.... yet.

it's hard,
but nonetheless, go you!

xo.

Face Graffiti said...

feels good to turn the page. end the chapter and close the book! write a new one =] gluck with everything! ur super hawt! eff dudes set ur standards high!

Trice said...

gossshhh..! This has to be the first time I read your blog and I'm in the mist of tears because Im going through the same ish as I type! Its like I fell on your page for a reason, I pray all works well for us worthy ladies out there! Thanks for writing this!

Canadian Girl said...

I tagged you!
http://canadiangirrl.blogspot.com/2009/03/ive-been-tagged.html

Rachie-Pie said...

i cant believ i havet rea your blog for so long! you dissapeared!

Sorry to hear about the boy, but he clearly wasn't worth it!!! and allow the side chick FOOLISH girl, propbably getting bare happy now! just dnt go runnin back you hear!

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